Master And Slave: Exploring Bdsm

Adult-beginner-restraint-kit-font-b-handcuffs-b-font-blindfold-leather-whip-flogger-velvet-restrain-sexAfter the movie 50 Shades of Grey, people have had pretty unrealistic ideas about one of the most sexually fulfilling parts of any good relationship. Bondage, submission, masochism, and dominance aren’t what the movies portray. In fact, while the idea of a “sex room” might be a little titillating, it’s not realistic in most circumstances. Most of those who truly practice the art scoff at the images presented in the movies and books- because they cast a negative light on a completely normal activity that even those who aren’t into complex knots, gentle lashings, and handcuffs can enjoy.

Most of the time, if you really want to get your lady’s attention, you have to show a little grit. Establishing control isn’t just healthy- it’s completely sexy. Women like to know who the boss is, and who has control. If you allow a relationship to get boring, it’ll lose its zest quickly, and you’ll soon find yourself longing for another. Sometimes, all it takes is a little squeezing, hand placement, and a gruff demeanor, and you’ll soon find yourself craving the control- and your partner will be quivering for more.

Toss everything you’ve seen in the movies out the window. Why? Because even the most sexually deviated people in the world treat their lovers (especially people that they genuinely care about) better than the main character in the movie; BDSM relationships revolve around complete trust and respect. It’s all about understanding limits, practicing limits, and showing that you’ve got what it takes, without taking it to far, or humiliating a person. So, how do we establish a happy medium?

1. Being Highly In-Tune with Your Significant Other

If you’re truly engaging in these kinds of sexual activities, then you’re on a completely different plane of existence. Why? Because establishing these emotional bonds lets you cover a wide variety of aspects of a sexual relationship that can be very, very pleasing, like choking, gentle spankings, and even bondage; these ideas are highly exciting, and focus more on giving pleasure to the one who’s submissive, instead of forcing them to do something they’d rather not.

2. Start Small

Take baby steps. Start small- get a toy that you strap under the bed, with soft cuffs, and restrain your partner. They’ll love struggling against the bonds, and you’ll love the freedom to try whatever you want- whenever you want. Play, tease, get a feather, tickle and tease, be seductive- just enjoy the experience.

3. Give a Little, Take a Little

As we mentioned above, BDSM is about giving affection, showing how much you care, and working on giving someone the sexual attention that they crave- that is nearly impossible to receive in a new or boring relationship. Giving yourself the openness to explore various aspects of sexuality give you the power to truly enjoy your sexuality- which is a very freeing experience for both partners- and you’ll notice the difference in your relationship immediately; in very good ways. For more pleasure check out cityofeve.com

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